What Doesn’t Kill You, Makes You Stronger…

… I hate, nay, despise this phrase. And it is rather odd how much time I’ve spent thinking about this phrase. Mostly in the car, and usually when that Kelly Clarkson song comes on the radio. Still, it is used far too often, and I just don’t like it.

The thing is, I see two interpretations of this phrase

1.) In fact, what does not kill you, makes you a stronger person
2.) If it does kill you, you were not strong; you were weak

The first point I think is a great motto for those suffering from disease, or hardships, where you learn from misfortune, and use it to better yourself. People who fight cancer or other disease fight every day for their life, and I think it makes them the strongest people ever. You cannot break their will.

The second point is what really upsets me. It does. I take offense to it. I have been in a completely different mind set ever since Jen’s passing, and many of my views and interpretations  have changed. I feel like when I hear What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, people are implying that my sister was not strong. That she wasn’t strong enough to overcome her injuries, or not strong enough to ride the motorcycle. I take serious offense to it, and get extremely defensive. I think-

How dare you say such terrible things about my Sister. 

Then, I sit back and think that no one would ever say such a thing, and that I am reading way to much into this idiom. It’s just when I hear it, I get very upset and want to correct the person who said it.



1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. Daina
    May 13, 2013 @ 12:16:34

    I can 100% agree with you on this saying! To me, it’s like the saying “Everything will be okay in the end; if it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” Which makes me think if everything is okay, is this the end!? xo xi tfj ❤


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