As many of you may know, I am in the midst of planning a wedding. My fiancé and I have been working together over the past few months and have been making amazing progress with booking vendors, creating gusts lists, and planning out our special day.
However, there is a constant reminder that Jen will not be at our wedding, and it sometimes makes planning difficult and emotional.
One of the hardest parts of planning a wedding without your sister is picking the bridal party. My whole life, I knew that Jen was going to be standing next to me on my wedding day, holding my bouquet and fluffing my dress. I have no regrets about my beautiful bridal party now; I just wish Nif was there too.
(special shout out to RP, AT, RR, CN, GK, EB, and JC ❤ )
Another big issue is finding the right way to honor Jen at out wedding without it seeming like a memorial service. Both my fiancé and I have had a lot of loss in our families and we want to find a special way to let them know we miss them all on the most important day of our lives. We explained this to our officiants, and they said that we can honor them during the ceremony. Adam and I have toyed with the idea, but have yet to ultimately decide what we want to to.
I spend a lot of time on Pinterest looking at wedding boards and getting inspiration, and have seen a few things other brides’ have done to honor those they have lost.
One idea I saw was to put a picture of those who have passed on a chair during the ceremony.
Pro: Simple yet powerful way to include passed family members
Con: We would have an entire row of portraits….
Another idea I saw was to bring a picture of Jen with me, and have the photographer capture a shot of me in the background, and include Nif’s image in the foreground.
Pro: An intimate way to have a moment captured with Jen; very private and personal
Con: I haven’t thought of one yet…
The last idea I thought about was a memorial candle with some signage that reads, “In memory of those who have gone before us.” (or something to that effect).
Pro: Simple and meaningful
Con: Perhaps this is too simple
We still have time to decide what we want to do, but it is never too early to start thinking about ideas!
What did you do at your wedding, or have seen done, to honor those who have passed?